Creating is natural. Beautiful. Fulfilling.
Sharing is liberating. Gratifying. Gut-wrenching.
Yeah, I said it: Gut-wrenching. Because not everybody
loves every creation.
We aren’t all attracted to the same people, and that’s
a good thing. I’m thankful I don’t have to pry other women off my man every
time we go to Target. That would be awkward and all sorts of time consuming. He’s
a good-looking man, mind you, but most women notice the gold band around his
finger and realize there are other options.
I follow many writer feeds, and over and over I read
this advice: “Don’t read your reviews…EVER…unless someone reads them first and
filters them and only hands over the ones that say you’re brilliant.” It’s as
if the path to Goodreads is Disney’s Splash Mountain ride. A boatload of
writers bopping along to Zip-A-Dee-Doo-Dah getting the tummy squirms as danger
signs and buzzards appear.
So why does it bother us if what we create isn’t for
everyone? We don’t all like the same foods, music, or people.
But when you create something, it’s different. It
comes from you. You love it, nurture it, and groom it. When it seems less
fragile, you allow a select few to hold it. And when you are confident your
creation can walk, run, or even fly on its own, you let go.
Or pretend to.
But it’s still your baby.
And when someone calls your baby ugly, it would be easy to go mama bear on them.
But we mustn’t.
I am North Carolina born and raised and grew up under
the rule of “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all,” so I’m
guessing I should probably avoid reading my own reviews when that glorious day
comes…or maybe I’ll peek through half-closed fingers like a kid watching a
horror movie.
There’s an awesome episode of Victorious called The
Bird Scene. It should be required that all actors, artists, and writers watch
it before throwing themselves or their work out for public eyes. Seriously.
Wisdom from TeenNick to creators everywhere.
What do you recommend? How do you handle someone not
loving your creative baby? Comment and let us know.
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